Certified & Trauma Informed Dating Coach
With ten years of coaching and dispensing dating advice under my belt, dating is my wheelhouse. I've worked with single women ages 25-65 from all across the globe, helping them:
Craft an eye-pleasing dating profile in the age of Tinder, Bumble, Hinge
Smash the patriarchy
Learn effective messaging techniques
Identify and communicate intentions and goals
Avoid time-wasters, people who are emotionally unavailable, and potentials abusers
Handle difficult first date questions
Navigate concerns around body image, sex, disabilities & mental illness
I don't have a 5-Step System to make him obsessed with you. That's not what I do. You'll come to me hoping to find a relationship and leave having found your voice. I'll help you clarify your intentions, triggers and boundaries and teach you how to communicate them in a way that attracts healthy, emotionally available people.
My name is Christan Marashio. After 10 years of writing the internationally-read dating advice column And That's Why You're Single, I decided to switch gears. Despite being considered a "dating expert" by some, I struggled romantically, largely due to childhood trauma.
In 2019 I took a break from writing my column to pursue my coaching certification. It's my personal belief that online dating has become traumatic for many singles largely due to the overwhelming amount of disappointment, rejection and anxiety many daters experience.
In addition to coaching, my goal is to educate people on not just traditional theories but the science behind them. My specific goal is to dismantle misogynistic "Bro Science" theories regarding mating rituals and sexuality. The -ology in Dateology Coach refers to the different aspects of human behavior - Psychology, Sociology and Biology to name a few. My study of the brain started with my certification course and has continued to this day.
In addition to holding a Bachelor's Degree in Communications from Emerson College, I received coaching certification through the International Association of Trauma Recovery Coaching in August of 2019. Although I'm based in NYC, I serve as a dating coach for single women across the globe.
Like Liam Neeson's character in Taken, I have a particular set of skills..
I've owned and operated BuffsandBrainiacs.com a successful singles-events business for over a decade. My company hosts about 30 dating events per month and creates singles events and speed dating events in NYC, Boston & DC.
I created and wrote the internationally-read advice column And That's Why You're Single for ten years.
I spent a year pursuing my coaching certification and am now a certified dating & trauma recovery coach. My training included supervised one-on-one and group coaching.
In 2018, I became a co-host for The Dateology Coach Podcast. In addition to offering insights into media & pop-culture, my co-host and I dish out incisive & inclusive dating advice for men and women.
I've been single. Like, a lot, which means I've used the same apps and dating sites as you with varying degrees of success.
Through her empathetic direction, I felt more confident in my ability to vet potential matches, and have since had two short-term dating relationships while spending considerably less time on conversations with people who do not align with my values. I recommend her guidance for anyone who is an online dating veteran, or brand new to online dating. She can help you approach the process with an open heart and mind. "
-Sarah, 43, Brooklyn
What sort of dating/relationship support can you provide?
I offer both one-on-one online dating coaching as well as group workshops. I also answer letters submitted by singles looking for dating advice in my Substack newsletter
Do you only work with people in your area?
Nope! I work with clients from all over, including abroad.
Can you prescribe medications?
No. Since I'm a coach and not a therapist, I cannot treat or diagnose mental illness, nor can I subscribe medication.
Will sessions be recorded in any way?
No. All sessions notes are done in writing and kept in a secure and locked location.
Is there any kind of coach/client confidentiality like with therapists?
While coaches are not bound by HIPAA the way licensed medical professionals are, we feel bound to conduct ourselves as though we are. That means no client/patient relationships outside of coaching and no disclosure of information of any kind without your written permission. All clients have complete confidentiality. Please be aware that coaches do follow Mandatory Reporting Laws. Should we feel that you are a risk to yourself or others, or if you disclose that someone else is being harmed, we are obligated to report this to proper authorities/professionals.
Do I have to sign a contract?
Nope. You can stop coaching at any time.
Can I pay in installments?
Unfortunately, it's required that full payment be received at time of booking. Should you be having financial issues, don’t hesitate to contact me so we can discuss your options.
Can we conduct sessions by phone?
Sessions can be conducted by phone, Zoom, or Skype.
What is your refund policy?
All booking registrations are final. Should you be unable to make a session, you can reschedule at no extra cost as long as you notify me within 24 hours of your scheduled session. More than one rescheduling for the same session may result in termination of services. No refunds will be provided.
How do I reach you if I need to cancel or if I need a last-minute session?
All communications outside of sessions will be done via email only. You will be given a private email to use to reach me.