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Why Did She Dump Him After Sex?

Updated: Aug 17, 2020



After two weeks of texting and three dates, a woman I met on Tinder said she wasn't feeling it and wanted us to be friends. (We were intimate on the third date, so needless to say I was surprised.) I assumed her offer of friendship was her way of letting me down easy. A week later I got a text from her asking if I wanted to meet for coffee and a social distance walk. I told her I couldn't make it because of previous plans. She suggested another day but I haven't responded to her text. What do you make of this?


While I can understand enjoying someone's company enough to want to stay in touch, I think distance is needed before you can properly embark on a platonic friendship. A person can't just switch from one mode to another like that without some confusion and complications.