Dating Someone Newly Divorced



What are your thoughts about dating a man who is going through a divorce?

He was the one who initiated the split and had not been happy for a while, but it's only been a few months since he moved out. He has been very open with me about the divorce, and seems genuinely interested in getting to know me and forming a relationship.


He has said that if I want to take things slowly, that's fine with him. I think we have a really good connection, and he seems to like me alot, but I don't want to be the rebound girl.


He was the one who initiated the split and had not been happy for a while

Please understand that you have no way of knowing the circumstances of his divorce. Anybody can say they initiated the divorce. Given how rare it is for men to do that I’m going to say the truth is somewhere in the middle.

A 2015 study by the American Sociological Association found that women initiate two-thirds of all divorces, a staggering 69% to be exact. College-educated women initiate divorce at an even higher rate: 90%.
but it's only been a few months since he moved out.

That’s a loaded “but.” By prefacing that statement with but, you’re revealing you’re own concern about the speed at which this guy seems to be moving. As you should be.


He has said that if I want to take things slowly, that's fine with him.

You don’t say. Of course he’s okay with taking things slow. That gives him the breathing room he needs to date other people.


The question you should be asking yourself is why someone fresh out of a marriage is looking to jump back into a relationship. The likelihood you’re a rebound is high here.


Proceed with caution.