The Best Dating Apps For Singles Over 40

I have a question: In your opinion, what are the best online dating sites for 50+?  Or even 60+? I was on and it was overrun with scammers and spammers.  And a few crazoids, as well.  Six dates in six months and the last one weighed close to 400 pounds and talked with his mouth full.  It was like having dinner with Jabba the Hut. I am beginning to fear that the only ones left are the broken toys.  Any suggestions would be appreciated.  Thanks.

I can't answer this question without acknowledging how unkind it is to ridicule someone for their weight. Let's be better than that. I understand how frustrating online dating can be, but if it gets to the point where you're making fun of someone's looks, it's time to wonder if that aspect of your personality has anything to do with why you can't seem to meet anyone you deem appropriate.

That said...

I one-hundred percent agree with your assessment of OurTime. I am skeptical of all age- specific online dating sites and dating apps for the same reasons you are. That being, they are a frequent haunts of romance scammers and other types of people looking to bamboozle singles out of their money.

The reason these particular platforms are popular among grifters is the assumption someone over forty is isolated, lonely and lacks the internet savvy necessary to properly vet prospective matches. I urge people to watch the Netflix series Dirty John, a story of a sociopathic man who used OurTime to con women out of their savings. (I also highly recommend the Showtime documentary Love Fraud.)

Also questionable are sites like Zoosk, Badoo and Plenty of Fish. These platforms are reputed to be heavily populated by scammers as well.

Now for what I do recommend:

I advise clients to use a minimum of 3 platforms at once: a traditional online dating site that allows you to message whomever you choose; one mainstream app; and one niche platform.

The benefits of using three at a time is that you can toggle between each one every few days without getting burnt out by seeing the same faces. Here's the platforms I suggest using:




  • All three have a large database of users

  • They have eye-pleasing and easy to navigate interfaces and profile templates

  • Profiles include prompts to assist people in writing about themselves. Prompts also serve